Michael Russer – Never allow the word “performance” to enter your bedroom

Michael J. Russer is an international speaker, TEDx Alum, author and intimacy expert. 

He also is a survivor of two forms of cancer who, along with his partner, has discovered how to achieve deep, connecting and mutually fulfilling intimacy in the face of full clinical impotence.

He has been interviewed on radio and TV many times and he is a featured weekly Sex & Relationship writer for GoodMenProject.com with his articles often appearing in major media like the Huffington Post and MariaShriver.com

Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra

[spp-tweet tweet=”Be in the moment and be willing to feel everything.”]

Tripped Up in a Partnership

His tendency to shut down and focus on his work ended up alienating his wife and family and eventually driving them apart. This experience led him to his Dream Woman project and his current partner.

The “DUH” moment that changed your partnerships forever

He went into business with a friend and mentor who was a silent partner but when they went to buy him out everything changed. The DUH moment was not having a written agreement, and it was a big mistake.

Proudest moment in partnership

Without a doubt it is his partnership with his life partner. Particularly due to a unique circumstance.

Current Partnership that Has You Excited

Michael’s decision to donate his time to speak to cancer survivor and their partners about regaining intimacy.

What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received?

Never allow the word “performance” to enter your bedroom. Instead, replace that word with presence.

Establish a base of emotional intimacy first. This requires full authenticity.

Best Partnership Book or Resource

The Presence Process: A Journey Into Present Moment Awareness

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About the author, Ken

I am the producer and host of Speaking of Partnership, a podcast that was inspired by a life of wearing the badge of self-sufficiency and independence proudly, until I realized it wasn't really a badge...it was armor.

My passion is helping you experience the power and payoffs of partnership by understanding and appreciating the opposite sex so you can feel safe, confident and understood in your personal, professional and family partnerships.

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